A long-awaited treatise on love from Ichiro Kishimi, author of the bestseller "The Courage to Be Disliked"! "Love" is a theme that is both the most familiar to us and, at times, the most complex and filled with suffering. • Why is it that even when we love each other, we can't be happy? • Why is it that we can't forgive even the slightest changes or flaws in our partner? • Why do we unconsciously try to "control" our partner? This book delves deeply into these fundamental questions by unraveling the philosophies of wise thinkers such as Adler, Fromm, Kiyoshi Miki, and Plato. It clarifies the nature of the "hesitation" and "suffering" that everyone feels in romantic relationships and marital relationships, and presents the **"art of loving"** to achieve truly happy love. What you can gain by reading this book: 1. Understanding the psychological mechanism of searching for "reasons to break up": • Sharply analyzes the psychology of seeing only the flaws of your partner, not because they have changed, but because you are looking for "reasons to break up." 2. Liberation from the "conditions" of love: • Hints on how to escape the trap of **"conditional love"**, where you expect from your partner "because you love them" and feel betrayed. 3. The determination to become a "true partner": • If you have the "determination" to continue loving, there is no reason for love to change. It shows that what is needed for a person to become a true partner is not calculation or sacrifice, but the **"determination of love."** If you don't want to end your love with "fleeting emotions" or "dependence." If you wish to obtain true happiness through love. Why not join philosopher Ichiro Kishimi and overcome the "hesitation" of love and discover the essence of continuing to love with courage? "The Philosophy of Love and Hesitation" -- A book that transforms your love from doubt to conviction.