I used this when I was discharged from the hospital. I've only used it about twice since then, so it's practically new. There are no stains or scratches. It has a hat and is very cute ^^ It has frills, but we used it for our boy! I think it can be used for either. I will wash it, compress it, and ship it. Please understand that this is stored by a private individual, and I also have a cat. Please purchase only if you can accept this.